Dealing with a Difficult Spouse During a Divorce
Divorce has a way of bringing out the worst in people. When one spouse refuses to cooperate during the divorce process, it makes the ordeal more difficult, time consuming, and expensive for everyone involved. A difficult spouse can make you want to tear your hair out, throw your hands up and give in to their demands. Fortunately, there are a few positive steps you can take to minimize the damage done by an unreasonable spouse, without rolling over and acquiescing to every ridiculous request.
Don’t Stoop to Their Level.
When your soon-to-be ex is playing dirty, it can be tempting to fight fire with fire. As difficult as it can be, it is important to be the bigger person throughout the divorce process. Be civil to your spouse, even when the favor is not returned. Follow the instructions of every court order, whether your spouse is cooperating or not. Never play mind games, make false accusations, or use your children as leverage to gain an advantage over your spouse. Judges can usually see right through this behavior and do not take to it kindly.
It is important to document everything during a divorce. Even if it does not seem relevant at the time, the records you keep could be important later. Not only should you document your spouse’s actions and behavior, it doesn’t hurt to keep a record of the things you do as well. Although a judge can often tell when someone is lying, it helps to have documentation to defend yourself if your spouse decides to make a false accusation against you. For example, if your spouse says you are a deadbeat parent, it would be helpful to produce receipts for the necessities and gifts you bought for them or the events and activities you attended together.
Hire Your Own Attorney.
Many couples try to save money by hiring one attorney to represent both spouses in the divorce. Some choose not to hire an attorney at all, preferring a “do it yourself” approach. These options may work well for couples that are able to work together in pursuit of a simple, uncontested divorce. If your spouse is being unreasonable or controlling throughout the divorce process, you should not attempt a “DIY divorce” or share an attorney with your spouse. One attorney cannot represent the interests of two clients when they are “at war” with each other. Divorce is not a game; there are often critical child custody and financial ramifications at stake. If you are dealing with a difficult spouse, you need a dedicated divorce attorney in your corner.
Divorce and Family Law Attorneys in Jackson, Mississippi
Divorce is never easy, but a skilled and experienced divorce attorney can help. The law office of Derek L. Hall, PC, The Heavy Hitter is a full-service family law firm serving Jackson, Mississippi and surrounding areas. Contact us today to request a free initial consultation.