A divorce does not have to be a fight. If you and your spouse can work out all the issues between you, then you can obtain a divorce on grounds of irreconcilable differences without having to go through any litigation. You must submit to the judge a written agreement on all the issues in the divorce (child custody, alimony, property division, etc.), or agree to let the judge decide any contested issues. If the judge reviews your agreement and decides that it is fair, then the court will grant your divorce.
If there are contested issues in your divorce, it is in your best interests to hire a lawyer to represent you. Even with a lawyer, your divorce need not be a battle, but what matters most is that your rights and interests – and those of your children – are properly represented in the final outcome.